Getting Out Of Your Own Way

~ " By R. Barker " ~


Each day in our lives, we hope and pray for a better day,
that things should improve in one area or another. But all too often,
all we do is hope and pray. That is not enough -- We have to think,
act and speak differently. If we don't change how we think, speak
and act, we are bound to repeat the same problems or mistakes that gives
us a situation we want changed. So how do we change things?

The hardest part of change is thinking differently. You have to challenge
your own assumptions, including most delicately, the sense of who you are.
You may not be who you really think you are.

Never forget, we judge others by their actions, but we judge ourselves
by our intentions. Yes, you meant to help someone with a project, you
intended to give charity, you were planning on inviting your friends over
for dinner, but if you didn't do it, in their minds you had no intention,
and you are judged as such. So start correcting this error. If you
intend to do something - DO IT. Don't procrastinate, don't delay. Stop
making excuses. You want to improve yourself, get out of your own way.

Now find someone you completely trust, who has your interest at heart
and who can give you constructive criticism. It is often better for a friend
to be this person than a spouse. And tell the person to try to remove personal
bias (of how you may have hurt them or been inconsiderate).
It has to be coming from a place of true concern for you. Start with one
area. Don't take on your whole life at one time. What you may realize
is that you may not be perceived the way you perceive yourself. So work on
correcting the inbalance - and you will immediately feel more content and
balanced inside...

You that you can start changing your life for the better by starting to
Think, Act and Speak differently!

Home	What Works?	Getting Started	Art As A Healing Force
Journaling	Detox & Treatment Centers	Goals	Our Pasts
Recommended Reading	Warriors In Discovery	Warrior Affirmations	Recovery Tools
Anger/Resentment	Self Esteem	Setting Boundaries	Quitting Smoking
Problem Solving	Relationships	Recovery News	In The News
Spirituality	Poetry & Quote of The Day	Recovery Quotations	Happiness
Using Humor In Your Recovery	Jokes and Random Quotes	Do You Have A Drinking Problem?	The Healing Power of Music
Alternative Recovery Links	More Great Links	How Women Recover From Addiction	Take Our Poll
12-Step Links	Support Group	Alternative Group	Disclaimer

 
     


 With Special Thanks To XeCreations For Creating This Website-Alternative Self Help Recovery From Alcoholism and Drug Addictions-A Self Help Guide To Assist Anyone In Recovery or Those Seeking Recovery From Alcoholism and Substance Abuse.